after rehab-now what

What do you do with yourself when you can't work. When other people need to clean your home and take care of your children. What if you can't balance a checkbook and you even struggle with the concept of money. What if others have to schedule your appointments and answer your mail. What if you have trouble even having a clear thought. And the doctors tell you to go home, your all better now.

My experience with some of the therapy was that it helps you find a way to overcome your deficits.

If you can't plan a meal, use a recipe.

What if you can't remember to use a recipe? You make a calendar. On that calendar it would say " at 4:00 pm use this recipe."

What if you can't remember to look at the calender? You set an alarm clock to ring at 3:45 pm, which will remind you to look at the calender.

What if you can't remember why the alarm is ringing? You put a note on the clock that says "when the alarm rings, you should look at the calender."

What if you read the note and you say to yourself, "what calendar?"

How come you don't get a refund when the medical treatments don't work? They provide their services, then they submit their claims to your insurance company. They, in turn, pay their portion of the bill, and you're expected to pay the balance. You know, out of pocket expenses, deductibles, copay's, uncovered services, etc, etc, etc.

What if the medicals had to sign a waiver that said, if the treatment doesn't work, they don't get paid. The medicals make no promises or guarantees. In this case, they told us, surgery, 4 or 5 days in the hospital, and then home for recovery. They explained this as, what you might expect to happen. And that is what I expected, because the medicals said so. But what happened is surgery, weeks in the intensive care, and months of rehab, with Marie being left with many deficits and no job.